Review: Love and Other Theories by Alexis Bass

Posted December 29, 2014 by lockhartbecca in Reviews / 5 Comments

Love & Other Theories by Alexis Bass Review -

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I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review. This has in no way changed my opinion of the book. The review below is my open and honest opinion.

Synopsis from Goodreads:


If you want more, you have to give less.That’s the secret to dating in high school. By giving as little as they expect to get in return, seventeen-year-old Aubrey Housing and her three best friends have made it to the second semester of their senior year heartbreak-free. And it’s all thanks to a few simple rules: don’t commit, don’t be needy, and don’t give away your heart.

So when smoking-hot Nathan Diggs transfers to Lincoln High, it shouldn’t be a big deal. At least that’s what Aubrey tells herself. But Nathan’s new-boy charm, his kindness, and his disarming honesty throw Aubrey off her game and put her in danger of breaking the most important rule of all: Don’t fall in love.


My Review:


I’ve seen a lot of negative reviews for this on Goodreads and I totally understand where most of those people are coming from. This isn’t exactly a warm fuzzy feeling book (although there were warm fuzzies by the end). But I think that this book (sadly) is an accurate representation of how girls think and I believe it taught some important lessons.


The main character, Aubrey, and her friends live by theories that basically say don’t be clingy, don’t ask for commitment, don’t fall in love, let a guy have what he wants with no strings attached and no one will get hurt. So your friend can sleep with the guy you like and everything is fine, because you’re not supposed to care. And I kind of feel like that’s how society sees relationships. If a girl is clingy or expects too much from a guy, she’s “crazy”. We’re supposed to be the “cool” girls who don’t care, who let the men do whatever they want. And yes, that is extremely sad. And it broke my heart to see these girls think this way and to watch them get taken advantage of because of their thought processes.


Before I get into the good parts of the book, let me just touch on two things that weren’t so good. Girl on girl hate. Although the main characters live by these theories that supposedly keep them from getting hurt, they are horrible to this one girl who “stole” another girl’s boyfriend. I didn’t really get that because according to their theories that was supposed to be okay. But it obviously wasn’t in this case. I just felt really bad for the girl. I saw myself in her and it broke my heart to see her being treated the way she was. And then there was the alcohol. I don’t know about you guys, but when I was in high school, I did NOT go to ragers every weekend and get wasted. The first time I got drunk I was at my aunt and uncle’s house. Yep. Maybe I was just a lame kid and didn’t get invited to these parties? But the whole premise of teens going over to someone’s house every weekend and getting smashed seemed a bit ridiculous and far-fetched to me.


I’ll touch on the romance for just a brief moment. I don’t think it was instalove. It was quick, but Aubrey never really was in love with Nathan. And I didn’t really care so much about the relationship. What I really cared about were the friendships. And I really enjoyed the Trip-Aubrey dynamic. It wasn’t quite a love triangle… oh, I’ll just let you figure it out.


But here’s what I really loved: the main character truly learned her lesson. By the end, she had figured out that the theories aren’t perfect. They aren’t right and other people’s feelings mean more. I think the morale of the story was so great and I was pleasantly surprised by how it all ended. Each girl was continuing down their own path in what seemed to be a healthy lifestyle and I think that all of them will be able to develop healthier romantic relationships and healthier friendships in the future.


Have you read this one yet? What did you think of the friendships? Romantic relationships? Was I just a lame kid in high school or are these crazy parties ridiculous? 

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5 responses to “Review: Love and Other Theories by Alexis Bass

  1. Hmmm…still not sure about this one. I usually like my contemporary reads to be light and fluffy, but your review has piqued my interest. And as far as how realistic the parties and drinking are, without reading the book, I have to say that it just depends on what crowd you were in (unless the book has the entire school going every weekend, which doesn't make sense). Great review! ~Pam

  2. hmmm intersting. I actually haven't seen a lot of reviews for this one but I'm still a teensy bit on the fence about it. I think I would actually enjoy it, though!! From your thoughts, I think I would end up connecting with it.
    No way, I was the same as you — There WERE parties at my high school but they were the "popular" kids (although popular didn't really mean much. It was more like a different group of friends) but I never once went to them nor got invited. Nor did I want to be. I didn't have my first drink until junior year and that was my friend and I drinking wine in her basement because neither of us had gotten drunk before haha. Not so glamorous! I guess it does happen to a certain extent but it never ever feels realistic to me because I was never at those parties! I totally hear ya.

    • Yeah, I was surprised at how much I could connect with it. That's what made me really enjoy it. It's pretty sad though to see these girls come up with their "theories" to please these guys. Sad because it goes on in our world every day.

      Yeah, maybe there were parties at my high school but I just never heard about them? lol The first time I drank was at my aunt and uncle's house with them. haha, definitely not glamorous. but probably much safer than some high school party.

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